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The Toxic World of Self Help – be careful how literally you take the advice from self help Gurus

Self-help can be a good starting point for those who don’t have access to professional help. But it’s important to remember that self-help is not a replacement for professional help.

First off Self-help is a multi-billion dollar industry and people in it are there to make a living (profit). Again Self help messages are often oversimplified and sweetened with a false sense of hope and meaningless pats on the back. This can lead to toxic positivity and a cycle of books, seminars, and videos without really addressing the underlying issues. Therefore, self-help should not be used as a replacement for professional help.

This video from James Jani, is a warning to those looking to improve their lives, that it is important to be aware of the potential issues that may arise. Self-development can be a great tool for personal growth, but it is important to be mindful of the challenges that may come along with it.

Self-help books can be a valuable resource for personal growth and development, but it’s important to keep in mind that they have both benefits and limitations.

Some potential benefits of self-help books include:

  • They can provide practical advice and strategies for addressing specific problems or issues.
  • They can offer inspiration and motivation for making positive changes in one’s life.
  • They can offer a sense of validation, as reading about others’ experiences can help individuals feel less alone in their struggles.
  • They can be a relatively inexpensive and accessible form of self-improvement.

However, there are also some potential downsides to relying on self-help books:

  • They may not address the individual’s specific needs and circumstances.
  • They may not be evidence-based and therefore not effective.
  • They may not take into account individual’s personal characteristics, such as personality and learning style.
  • They may not be suitable for people with serious mental health conditions, and in such cases, it is better to seek professional help.
  • They can create an unrealistic expectation that personal change can happen quickly or easily.

It’s important to approach self-help books with a critical mindset, and to keep in mind that they are not a substitute for professional help if you are dealing with serious issues. Additionally, self-help books can be useful tools for personal growth, but they should be used in conjunction with other resources such as therapy, social support, and healthy habits.

The video tells the story of a young person who four years ago was curious about a book their friend was reading. The book was titled “How to Win Friends and Influence People” and after a year of procrastinating, the person decided to order it from Amazon and began reading.

The book opened up a world of self-development for subject of the video and they started paying attention to their diet, scheduling their days, and taking their passion for acting more seriously. They then read book after book and followed the advice of the so-called “Gurus” they were told to follow. This led to increased confidence and motivation, but the person was still missing something.

Some popular self-help books that have had a significant impact on readers include:

  1. “The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People” by Stephen Covey
  2. “Think and Grow Rich” by Napoleon Hill
  3. The Power of Positive Thinking” by Norman Vincent Peale
  4. How to Win Friends and Influence People” by Dale Carnegie
  5. “The Power of Now” by Eckhart Tolle
  6. “The Secret” by Rhonda Byrne
  7. “Man’s Search for Meaning” by Viktor Frankl
  8. “The Road Less Traveled” by M. Scott Peck
  9. “The Alchemist” by Paulo Coelho
  10. “The 4 Agreements” by Don Miguel Ruiz.

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